How can I help my partner to make him cum and make a child?

dimples

My partner is a paraplegia since he was 18 years old. He can't move his lower body but his penis still get hard. The thing is I dont know how to make him cum, and we wanted to make a baby.
Is there any way to make him cum? 

WAGSofSCI

@dimples thank you for your question. The process you’re referring to is about finding what works for him to help him ejaculate with assistance. This process is different for every man with an SCI as different things work for every person depending on the sensation and injury level. Finding what works for him may be totally different than what worked on others. It’s all about experimentation - and what we would suggest as a starting point is finding a doctor or specialist who specializes in sperm retrieval and options for conception for couples with SCI. Many Urologists do this, and there are also resources available via hospitals or fertility centres in your city who can help. Start here and a qualified specialist will lead you in the right direction. There are many options from home sperm retrieval to clinical setting retrieval depending on his body and how he responds to stimulation. You can try stimulation experimentation at home using an sci specific vibratory device like the Vibraerect 3 or the Ferticare vibrator - but make sure you are keeping an eye on his blood pressure and AD signs/symptoms during. Best thing to do would be to consult a specialist first and then begin the journey! Good luck to both of you. 

dimples

Thank you for your answer.
How he gonna cum inside of me if he will use the vibraerect3 or the ferticare vibrator? 

WAGSofSCI

@dimples this is where the experimentation comes into play. Every person is different and he may be able to ejaculate on his own with manual stimulation. Play around and have fun - what works for all may not work for you so consult your doctor and see what you can achieve! Good luck 

Zcollie

Hi @dimples as the WAGSofSCI already stated achieving ejaculation for a guy with an SCI is different for everyone. In my experience I have found success using a Hitachi magic wand, which you can get off amazon and works well for both sexes. I also have the viberect x3. However, the success rate is a hit or miss for me. If you want him to ejaculate inside of you, you could try using a vibrator on him until he is about to cum or coming and then hop on top really quick.