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Would YOU be offended if your friend or a family member moved to an inaccessible home?

Hey All
We are wondering what your thoughts are on this: if a good friend of family member moved to a place where you couldn't get in, or that wasn't conducive to a wheelchair, would you be offended that they didn't consider you in their moving plans?
If they had the opportunity to be thoughtful about access, but chose to ignore it or didn't factor that into their decision making at all, would this bother you?
Would love to read your thoughts or experiences on this.
WAGS of SCI
We are wondering what your thoughts are on this: if a good friend of family member moved to a place where you couldn't get in, or that wasn't conducive to a wheelchair, would you be offended that they didn't consider you in their moving plans?
If they had the opportunity to be thoughtful about access, but chose to ignore it or didn't factor that into their decision making at all, would this bother you?
Would love to read your thoughts or experiences on this.
WAGS of SCI
Your WAGS of SCI
(Elena and Brooke)
(Elena and Brooke)
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However, I get incredibly mad when a closed one invites us somewhere where accessibility lacks completely. My guy, on the other hand, has no problem with it. I know this was not the question, but I just wanted to point out that while I wouldn't mind the lack of accessibility where it would be difficult to obtain or it'd imply enormous extra costs, I do mind in situations where a simple, small effort could be made.
But if we lived somewhere else and this was easier to do, I'd probably have a problem if, for example, my mom had a choice into making her place more accessible, without huge extra costs, and she'd choose not to.
...so I guess I'm somewhere in between lol.
Side note: There hasn't really been a place where I haven't been able to go. Because I am small framed and in a manual chair I can easily be lifted up stairs or a few steps. So really I have been able to make anything work even if not accessible.
That is a good question! I would base it on how often your brother goes to see/stay with you. I'd think you would be able to get one no problem with your situation with your brother. It's just be up to you. Maybe find a place that's accessible but not modified? That way he can get in and move around fine when he is there, but you won't take necessities from someone else when he's not.
Really really good point. Maybe if it was accessible only for entrance/elevator requirements then.
(Elena and Brooke)