Hey CAREGIVERS/ Partners...

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Hey guys and gals!

Hope everyone is having a brilliant start to their week, mercury retrograde and all. We are really feeling the magnetic pull, and energetic shift this month and have focus the majority of our attention on clearing space and "cleaning out the closet so to speak." Spending more time with our own friend groups and reconnecting to what it is that we want to focus our attention on as individuals. 

Recently, my boyfriend asked me to join him on an adventure of adapted sports and a weekend away at Whistler, B.C Canada- yes, where the Olympics 2010 was held. And trust me, I would LOVE to go but it happens to be the same time as a business conference I would really love to attend in L.A...

I have a tremendous amount of guilt for wanting to go to the conference and not spend time with him as he doesn't want to go with anyone else...

Do you ever feel guilty for wanting to do something for yourself vs. something that your partner would like you to do with them?
 IF so, how do you manage your guilt? 

On another note, do you find it important to spend time with your own group of friends or do you mostly have mutual ones?

Let us know bellow! 


Elena Pauly

Your WAGS of SCI
(Elena and Brooke)


  • prc_Bethprc_Beth Information Specialist Posts: 17Moderator, Information Specialist Information Specialist
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    Ah guilt -- it is universal.

    I'm curious as to what you decided to do?

  • heatherkrillheatherkrill Moderator Posts: 24Moderator Moderator
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    Yes, the guilt is powerful for sure!  However, I keep telling myself that if I don't make the time for my own outings, then I run the risk of feeling resentful.  Resentful is far worse than guilt in my book.  I've also had to have conversations with my husband about enjoying myself more on outings which are important to him as long as I have some time to do my own thing.  By "own thing" I'm not talking about trips to the spa or week long adventures with girlfriends; I'm talking about reading books at night or occasionally meeting a girlfriend out for a glass of wine.  I should take more time, but I'm grateful to have gotten to the point where I know it's good for me-- and better for us long term-- if I make the "me choice more often" 
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