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Most All the time I just want to give up.

Good morning, everyone first. I would like to apologize for not being as strong as other people are in here. I am very sensitive. And new to all of this. I've been Paralyzed for a year and seven months which feels like it just happened yesterday, but the same time feels like it's eternity. I just don't want to live like this and I don't see how anybody could adjust everyday, I just wish I was dead. I miss doing everything I was very independent. I feel humiliated And like garbage like I don't matter no more. I just want to disappear. I feel scared to live Like this


  • prc_Bethprc_Beth Moderator, Information Specialist Posts: 55 Information Specialist
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     My name is Beth and I am a member of the Information Specialist Team here at the Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation. You don't have to apologize for how you feel. I'm just sorry that you are having such a rough time. Have you spoken to anyone about how you feel? Would you be interested in being matched with a Peer Mentor through the Peer & Family Support Program? Please call 1-800-225-0292 or 973-467-8270 and ask to speak to an Information Specialist.  We have a wide range of information and resources for individuals living with paralysis, as well as their family members and caregivers including information on Adjusting to a Spinal Cord Injury and information on Depression. If you don’t want to call you can also submit a question using the “send a question” tab here:  You can request to be connected with a Peer Mentor. There are people who can give you support. Please reach out.


    Beth Eisenbud | Associate Information Specialist, Paralysis Resource Center

    Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation  

    a: 636 Morris Turnpike, Suite 3A  |  Short Hills, NJ 07078
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    p: 800-225-0292 or 973-379-2690 | m: 973-933-7000


  • WAGSofSCIWAGSofSCI Moderator Posts: 384 Moderator
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    Thank you for sharing this with us as a community. Its so important to get your feelings out there especially when most of us have been where you are and can relate to how you feel. @prc_Beth is right - having a mentor in this community is so important - mental health is something we ALL have struggled with and processing an injury like this is not easy. It's been 6 years since my husband became  a C4 dependent quadriplegic and he still struggles mentally with his new life. He has regular counselling and tools he uses to get through the tough days thats for sure. He has found new meaning to life as well, with time. We do not want to sugar coat anything - this life is hard.. but it doesn't have to be worthless with a new perspective, a loving community like this one who is HERE FOR YOU, and a mentor. One tip we have is to start immersing yourself in this community online and through platforms such as Instagram. Follow positive profiles like @Zcollie
    who has made his life into a positive, hopeful one and posts about life with his partner Bre. We have hundreds of stories on our community on instagram too where we hope to show that a good life after paralysis IS possible! Give us a follow on instagram @wagsofsci and message us anytime! - Brooke

    Your WAGS of SCI
    (Elena and Brooke)
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