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Are you in a relationship?

WAGSofSCI Moderator Posts: 379 Moderator
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Hello Everyone,

Everyone wants to know what relationships and dating looks like after a spinal cord injury. 

Why? Any ideas why this is a hot topic? 
Are you in a relationship?
Did you meet before or after your injury? 
What got you up and going out on dates?

Many individuals in this community would love to know that dating and relationships after SCI exist. Please share your advice and dating tales.

Your WAGS of SCI
(Elena and Brooke)


    WAGSofSCI Moderator Posts: 379 Moderator
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    Hey Elena thanks for asking this important question. Not nearly enough people discuss this after SCI! 

    My biggest piece of advice for dating post SCI is BE YOU. work on YOU. develop YOU. Learn the things you’ve always wanted to learn, and spend your time making yourself FEEL good. That energy will attract someone who respects what you have going on between your ears, not the state of your physical body. 

    Good luck everyone! 

    Your WAGS of SCI
    (Elena and Brooke)
  • stephanie426
    stephanie426 Moderator Posts: 65 Moderator
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    As a person who has never lived without my disability, my biggest piece of advice for people dating after SCI is to remember that you're not the first or the last person with a disability to get out there and date!

    There's plenty of people who are born with disabilities who have never experienced dating WITHOUT a disability and our dating lives are pretty great! 

    There's this really isolating feeling for many people who acquire disabilities that what you're experiencing is something only you are going through and that can make things really scary or lonely, especially when your disability is new.  

    For me, I was born with my disability.  I went through the lonely, scary, isolating years as a kid/preteen so by the time I was in high school I was like "hey, we're all awkward.  This is me." and I was excited to start dating. With every person I dated,  I became more confident in my value as a dateable person.  

    Dating is scary for everyone.  Dating as a disabled person may be new for you, but it's not a new concept.  Remember that.  Remember that literally millions of disabled people have dated before you.  Many are in very happy relationships.  That probably won't make getting out there any less scary, but hopefully it will give hope and confidence when you're feeling down.  
    WAGSofSCI Moderator Posts: 379 Moderator
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    @stephanie426 Wow this is amazing advice!! Thank you for sharing.
    Your WAGS of SCI
    (Elena and Brooke)
  • Lllemon
    Lllemon Member Posts: 1
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    So, a man with the cutest face and dimples liked my online dating profile recently - I was not having much luck on the site, so I was about to cancel the subscription, but I responded to him as a last ditch try and it turned out to be a match!  In his dating profile, he revealed his paralysis and that he had been in a wheelchair for a few years after a traumatic accident.  He displayed the most amazing confidence in himself and his future, he spoke of how he maintains his independence, has a career and does many hobbies just like everyone else does... just done differently he said,  and I really wanted to meet him. Now we've met and talked and decided to date, and I'm blown away every time I think about what an amazing man I have in my life.  He says he's as grateful for me as I am for him. He hadn't pursued any relationships for a few years while working on his recovery and now I am the one he wants!  I'm the luckiest girl in the world and I want to tell everyone about it!  We're both over 50 and have a good idea about what mistakes from our past we want to avoid so, heading into this time in our lives with each other makes me feel so happy - it's like a miracle for me to actually have a man who wants to talk and be connected.  It's the best feeling in the world! 
  • prc_Beth
    prc_Beth Moderator, Information Specialist Posts: 57 Information Specialist
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    I'm glad you met someone and seem so happy. Continued good time to you!

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