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Wedding Suggestions for COVID?

stephanie426 Moderator Posts: 80 Moderator
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Hi All, 

As some of you already know, I am engaged. My fiance and I were excited to get married on Oct. 23, 2020 but it looks like COVID is changing our plans. We spent a year and a half planning our wedding and even scheduled our wedding around the Paralympics to ensure that my fiance's friends would all be able to come (as many of them would be competing in Tokyo). However, now that COVID has changed the world, it doesn't look like we'll be able to have our wedding. We were planning on having 150 people in a fully accessible venue in New York, but as of today wedding venues are only allowed to have 50 people max in them and New York is restricting travelers from 31 states which means many of our friends and family from around the country likely would not be able to come. 

It's really frustrating and we're trying to be understanding because everything in the world is in flux, but it's hard not to be upset because it's hard enough to plan a wedding, but it's even harder to plan a fully accessible wedding for a wheelchair-using bride and groom with a guest list that includes at least 20 other wheelchair users and 130 other people. We had everything perfect, and now we're back to the drawing board. To make matters worse, everyone keeps asking us about the wedding. We know they are well intentioned, but honestly, it just upsets me more because my answer is "I don't know" to every question. 

Do we postpone the wedding? Have a much smaller wedding? Virtual wedding? No wedding? Something else? 

For now, we've just sent out this image to all of our guests. What do you suggest? 


  • prc_Beth
    prc_Beth Moderator, Information Specialist Posts: 62 Information Specialist
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    Hi Stephanie,

    I wish I had some great advise for  you. I'm so sorry you are going to have to postpone your wedding. I believe some people are going forward with getting married and then planning on having a big party later when things get better. 

    I wish you nothing but the best!

  • Sterlion
    Sterlion Moderator Posts: 108 Moderator
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    Hey Stephanie,

    My answer would be to have a small wedding with close relatives who can make it while also streaming it for the peeps out of town. Then as @prc_Beth mentioned above, having a big party at another time when its safe to meet in crowds again.
  • heatherkrill
    heatherkrill Moderator Posts: 107 Moderator
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    That stinks...I'm sorry to hear that!  But, my husband and I married legally one entire year earlier than our "big wedding" simply to get him on better health insurance.  We did not tell anyone, except my boss as he had to sign the insurance papers-- and of course the lady at the town hall who married us in secret!  It was kind of fun, and our wedding the following year was extra special by the people who were able to join us.  Whatever you decide will be wonderful... hang in there!  Love the photo! 
  • ambercollie
    ambercollie Moderator Posts: 187 Moderator
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    I was a wedding photographer for years and know how much work planning a wedding takes! Like you said, add in the wheelchair accessibility!
    Sorry things changed. The ideas above are good, definitely frustrating and disappointing. Let’s some time pass and re-evaluate. This is your guys special day so do what you want.
    PS your a expert planner now too.